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Rugby & Leadership

More than a game, it's a framework for life and leadership.

My Rugby Journey

Rugby was a pivotal experience in college, creating an athletic framework for my early adulthood. Coming from American Football, Rugby is a demanding, constant-thought game, requiring fluid thinking and a deep motor to meet the needs on the field.

My clubs:

  • Blackwater RFC in Lynchburg (4 years)
  • Virginia Beach Falcons (1 season)
  • 757 Rugby Academy in Norfolk (U12 coach since Spring '25)

After a long hiatus from the sport, I returned to it when my son became old enough to participate with the 757 Rugby Academy.

Rugby: The Great Shaper

Respect

The sport is cemented in respect. Your personal safety and the safety of everyone around you requires it. You respect the person across from you on the field.

The physicality, conditioning, contact, mental acuity and time demands respect.

Our Sum is Greater Than The Individuals

Unlike most American sports where, even when playing as a team, individuals stand out and a single person can carry a team. This is extraordinarily difficult in rugby. Understand, a single person's effort can make or break a game, but it is different in that scoring on one's own or being able to make most of the team's tackles is nigh impossible.

The best players are the ones that know how to integrate their talents with their team mates.

Rugby Requires Intelligence

When I began playing, I was really shocked at how much depth there is. At the surface it feels like it's passing the ball backwards and tackling the other guy when they have the ball.

But there is an incredible depth in offensive formations, defensive formations, strategies on how to take advantage of a slower player or avoid a powerful tackler. Is the other teams' scrum particularly strong? Is their full back a precise kicker? How quick are their wings? Are their centers breaking tackles? How often are the 2nd rows pulling and running with the backs? Fastball? Static defense?

There are dozens of things to think about and unlike American football, you have to consider these things without a 45 second pause between plays. For 80 minutes, you have to think, constantly assess your place on the field, your team mates' positions, and the opponents' positions.

Rugby is team chess with running, passing, tackling, and kicking.

Hustle Is Free

Every sport has players that are talented. What everyone forgets is that hustle amplifies talent. Are you fast? Then make sure you also have deep conditioning so you can use that speed for 80 minutes. Excellent hands? Then make sure you are moving and positioning yourself into a position to receive a pass and press the offense. Excellent tackler? Then learn how offense works so you can properly attack your opponent and stop their advance.

Hustling amplifies your talents.

Strength

Strength takes many forms: pure muscle, endurance on the field, mental fortitude to continue strategizing when you're in the 60th minute of the game. Everyone has different strengths. Learn yours and how to lean on others to create something powerful.

Find your strength. Understand others' strength.

Have An Ear

You can't have 15 people on a field without communicating. Learn to listen. Process what others are seeing and telling you. Listen with your eyes, your ears, and with your body. People communicate through glances, eyebrows, a tap on an elbow, a clap, or with their voice. The better you can communicate in all the channels, the better you can attack or defend without alerting your opponents.

Listen with your ears, your eyes, and your body.

Have A Voice

While you're listening you have to be responding, directing, informing. Passing information along or observations you've made. At the very least you have to let someone know you are with them, ready for the pass, or beside them, ready to make the tackle. Slide left, slide right, punt the ball, I'm catching the ball, watch out for the flanker crashing, there's a thousand things to communicate. Build your vocabulary verbally and with your body language.

Tell your team mates how you are helping them and how to help you.

Building Young Men & Women

A total change in topic and context will highlight your strengths and weaknesses in mentorship and leadership.

I came from a world of technologists: engineers, systems analysts, data miners, SEO gurus, product evangelists.

Translating from that world to rugby required a reset. A coach is a mix of roles: mentor, teacher, leader, motivator, disciplinarian, coordinator…. Really not much different than a parent. Kids between 8 and 12 also represent an incredibly wide range of physical and mental capabilities. Every child has some element they're good at and other elements they're not good at. We also have our baseline goals to coach to, ensuring that when my U12 kids move up to U14 and U18, they have mastered certain skills.

Patience

Patience is a true virtue and the difference between a tyrant and a mentor. Patience gives space for people to process and learn, the room to try, try again, until they master their challenges. It sets up the moment when you can cheer and celebrate a learned skill, a conditioning goal, or a great play.

Patience builds trust within the team. It is an implicit acknowledgement between people that you are there to support them, assist, and keep working on challenges together. Everyone is always watching you as a leader and displaying that patience subconsciously creates an understood trust with the group you are leading.

Patience also requires space. You teach, you coach, you mentor, then step away and allow the mentee to work through and process the challenge. Sometimes that's an extra lap to build that conditioning or running a few more passing lines to solidify the technique. Sometimes it's recognizing that an arbitrary deadline can move a week or two if it means the end product is going to be higher quality, better tested, and consumer ready.

Respect

Respect is the underpinning of every interaction we have between one another. It is also much more complicated than "you have to earn respect." This is a lazy, immature way to interact with others and is a method that actively degrades any respect others may have for you.

I coach that the basis of our sport and how we treat one another is respect. We shake hands. We acknowledge mistakes, we apologize when we need to. We listen, we make eye contact, we talk with an understanding that we're all sweating, working together, with the same goals. We understand that our team mates have strengths different from our own and we work together to put those skills together.

Our professional lives should carry these same values.

About 757 Rugby Academy

The academy focuses on U18 youth rugby, mostly 8 to 18 years old. I coach the U12 group. It is an incredibly fun, motivating experience working with the boys and girls, building a foundation for respect, self motivation, strength and conditioning.